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five stages of divorce recovery

By Shan White, Women's Life Coach
A short primer on what to expect from yourself in through this troublesome time.

Divorce is like experiencing a death of sorts.  There is a sense of loss, betrayal, confusion, and a plethora of emotions. Because of this, the five stages of recovering from divorce are like other grief processes. Where are you in the process?

Here are the 5 Stages of Divorce Recovery: 

1.  Denial 

The first stage of any grieving process is denial. It's much like physical shock after an accident: the body shuts down until it can better deal with the pain of what has happened. In divorce, our body, mind, and spirit sometimes shut down until we can better deal the reality of what is happening.

2.  Releasing Negative Emotions

Experiencing negative emotions about your situation or towards others is normal.  That doesn't mean, however, that it's any less destructive. Acknowledging the anger, fear, worry, guilt, depression, and grief is the first step towards the healing process. This is when it’s important to have someone you completely trust to share your feelings with, whether it’s a friend, pastor, rabbi, counselor, or coach. Remember Henry Ford’s famous quote: “The un-examined life is not worth living.”

3.  Acceptance

Acceptance recognizes that the past is past and helps to bring about a desire to live in the present.  Perhaps, even get ready to step forward into the future. You know you are starting to experience acceptance when you start asking yourself forward-thinking questions like, “What do I do next?” or “How can I overcome this challenge?”

4.  Forgiveness  

Forgiveness is about releasing animosity towards yourself and others.  It frees you to pave the way for establishing new relationships with healthy patterns and boundaries. Nelson Mandela said “Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.

5.  Self-Worth

Nothing damages self-worth like having the person you loved to withdraw that love. The end of your relationship may have damaged your sense of worth and value. But, it’s important to remember that your ex-spouse did not take the love with them—the love still resides in you. 

One of the best ways of discovering your level of self-worth is to monitor your thought-life.  Be brutally honest with yourself and audit how much negative self-talk is occurring.

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Shan is a certified life coach, 
specializing in guiding women 
through traumatic transitions.  


Contact her today to 
schedule a complimentary 
"Transition Challenge" session.


Website:  www.WomensPeakPerformanceCoaching.com 

Office:  719-388-8758

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