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  • Blog—Maniacal Musings—Becky Lyn Rickman, Managing Editor
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  • Dealing with miscarriage
  • My Story
  • Circles
  • The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly of Being Single
  • 5 Stages of divorce recovery
  • The Circus is in Town
  • (You're covered with) The Fingerprints of God
  • Thunder Roared and Love Soared
  • A Period Piece
  • A sneak preview of the Gertie sequel!
  • Six Steps to Cultivate your Femininity in the Business World
  • Chore Zoning or Don't try this at home!
  • The 50 with Meredith Morse—Opera Singer
  • The 50 with Jessica VanVactor
  • Memorizing Joy
  • AT LAST! My interview with Shan White, Life Coach for women in transition
  • Questions and statements we don't care if we never, ever get asked or told again (am I right, girls?)
  • The Date
  • Moonshadow's Spirit
  • Broken Writer + Hypnotherapy = Amazing Trips
  • The "R" Word
  • The 50 with Carol Shepherd Rickman
  • Triumph During Transitions
  • A Kentucky Afternoon
  • Mothers
  • 10 things chemo taught me
  • What if . . .
  • Forgiveness—A poem
  • Mantegories (n. from the Latin; man+categories)
  • Insomnia 101
  • Blooming Bud Interview: Sierra
  • Masterful Mindsets
  • It's in the bag!
  • Important lessons for children: Start where you are, use what you have, do what you can
  • Nursery rhymes, and times, and slimes, and grimes, and crimes
  • Things I learned as a single mom
  • Sadie's Soapbox: Dating
  • The Dress
  • 8 Things That Have Surprised Me About Having a Large Family
  • The gift of longing
  • The Semicolon Project
  • Most embarrassing moments—culinary edition
  • MilitaReality—a brat's perspective
  • About those elusive wisps of thought
  • Being there
  • The Giving Mom
  • How I still haven't learned to keep my smart mouth shut!
  • If you give a mom a cookie . . .
  • Cacti and Geraniums
  • The Three Gardeners
  • Beauty is as beauty does
  • Words for Sabra
  • Arm scratching in Baltimore
  • Pornography didn't kill our love and friendship . . . I did . . . and how we got it back
  • Hardening off our little bloomers
  • The Wonderful, Magical Women of Blooming Television
  • Shake it like a Polaroid picture!
  • 25 Date Nights (that aren't dinner and a movie)
  • Hills Like White Elephants
  • Maryland Beaten Biscuits
  • The night we thought the house was exploding
  • A mysterious case of goosebumps or "What is that on the wall?"
  • Militareality—Real stories of military wives
  • Finding my metal in wood
  • Another blooming bud interview
  • Chariot of Fire
  • Secret gifts of love
  • The best prank I ever pulled was . . .
  • Connie
  • Dating and other hazards
  • Favorite childhood memories
  • When God speaks . . .
  • Zanie gets into another sticky situation
  • No-see-ums: A little useful information
  • I love my kids, but . . .
  • Meg's poem
  • Another blooming bud interview
  • Some of my favorite herbal recipes are . . .
  • I love my cat, but . . .
  • I love all creatures, but . . .
  • The thing all girls and women must see and know . . .
  • The Great Chicken Debacle
  • The Powerful Influence of Brothers
  • How I feel about blooming is . . .
  • Sometimes grandma is up—other times she is simply upside-down
  • Anyone out there as anxious as I am?
  • Some of my funniest childhood memories are . . .
  • You might be addicted to Harry Potter if . . .
  • This month's survey:
  • Another Blooming Bud interview
  • The most valuable life lesson I've learned is . . .
  • The greatest blessing to come out of the most painful thing I ever experienced was . . .
  • The most powerful influence on my life is . . .
  • The thing that could have broken our family, but didn't was . . .
  • The funniest thing that ever happened to me was . . .
  • The time my dad really surprised me was when . . .
  • NEW FEATURE: Interviews with Blooming Buds
  • ANOTHER NEW FEATURE: A survey
  • The most valuable life lesson I've ever learned is . . .
  • My most embarrassing moment was when . . .
  • What really puzzles me is . . .
  • One of the most fun days I ever had was . . .
  • The most scared I've ever been was when . . .
  • The people who have been the biggest influence on me are . . .
  • I like to relax by . . .
  • The best way to do . . .
  • My most embarrassing moment was when . . .
  • The most fun I ever had was when . . .
  • When I grow up, I want to be . . .
  • What really puzzles me is . . .
  • The most amazing bargain I ever found was . . .
  • Those annoying things kids do and what they mean
  • My shameless self-promotion
  • The thing about getting older is . . .
I sometimes think we are the only creatures in nature who question ourselves and give up. 
All others do what needs to be done without all the doubt and worry!

Masterful Mindsets

By Shan White, Guest Contributor, Women's Life Coach Extraordnaire
Meet and make friends with Shan! She has done wonders for me with her caring, empowering voice and simple down-to-earth "why didn't I think of that" suggestions.
Mindset is one of the most important aspects of your life.  With a successful mindset, possibilities are endless.  Without it, you will find yourself in perpetual frustration and a sense of never really moving forward.  Think of your mindset as your rudder on the boat of your life.  Used properly, it will guide you to your ultimate destination.  Used improperly, it will cause you to go in circles.

After studying some masters on mindset, I have put together some vital principles of a strong and successful mindset, especially when you’re dealing with challenging changes and transitions:

1.    Purpose:  If you can’t answer the question of “why” you are doing what you’re doing, the “how” will lack passion.  Rick Warren, author of, “The Purpose Driven Life”, said “…without purpose, life has no meaning. Without meaning, life has no significance or hope.”  It is imperative to dig deep and understand why you are doing what you are doing. Once the root reasons are revealed, the “how” will flow naturally.

2.    Prioritize:  Everyday, do the thing that you don’t want to do the most.  Brian Tracy, trainer & author, has likened this habit to “eating the frog”.  If you figuratively eat the frog first thing in the morning, everything else tastes wonderful to you and will feel easy in comparison.

3.    Persistence:  The mindset of success doesn’t ask “IF”, instead it asks “HOW”.   If you are asking yourself, “IF I overcome this challenge in my life?”, then consider a shift in your mindset. Instead ask, “HOW can I overcome this challenge in my life?”

Diana Nyad, the 60 year old swimmer, who swam from Cuba to Florida in 53 hours, said, “Find a way!”  She said, “If it’s important to you, we can all get there…jelly-fish, sea-sickness, pain, cold…find a way.”

4.    Perception (Self):  Negative self-perception is the universal human condition of not feeling good enough or deserving.  One of the best ways of discovering how you truly perceive yourself is to monitor your thought-life.  Be brutally honest with yourself and audit how much negative self-talk is occurring.  Remember Henry Ford’s famous quote: “The unexamined life is not worth living.”

5.    Procrastination:  This is my favorite!  Steven Pressfield, in the “The War of Art”, said that in reality, procrastination is an internal force called “Resistance”.  He goes on to explain that we feel resistance most strongly when we are about to dare greatly or grow spiritually!    The first time I fell into procrastination, after reading this, I tried it.  I have to admit to you, I just got plain stubborn about it.  So, I MADE myself do what I was avoiding, and I really did expand as a person.  The next time you procrastinate, try pushing through, and see what comes out of it.

6.    Perfection Paralysis:  Tony Robbins, says it the best: “Perfectionism isn’t about healthy striving for excellence… it is a way of thinking and feeling that says, ‘If I look perfect, do it perfect, work perfect, and live perfect’, I can minimize shame, blame and judgment.”  Perfection does not exist. Instead, focus on your capacity for excellence. Excellence is a goal that can be achieved each day. Consider working towards an excellent outcome, instead of a perfect one.

 

Remember, if you can train the rudder of your mindset in positive and forward-moving ways, the boat of your life will reach the destination of your dreams!


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Shan is a certified life coach specializing in guiding women through challenging changes and transitions.  
Contact her today to schedule a complimentary "Get Acquainted" session.
Website:  www.WomensPeakPerformanceCoaching.com 
Office:  719-388-8758
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